Jess and Nick in Splitsville »
So Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey have actually broken up. Is anyone surprised? Not me. In their words: "After three years of marriage...we have decided to part ways". That's just pathetic.
It takes courage and conviction to commit to someone for the rest of your life. I know it's not for everyone, and that's fine. Really. Don't think marriage is for you, then just don't do it. Look at Gene Simmons and Shannon Tweed. They've lasted longer than most marriages - yet they aren't married, and never will be married.
That's not to say their choice is the right one. I can't say. It's not my place. It wouldn't be for me because of my belief system. But if you aren't going to stick together, why get married at all? Getting married knowing you can just quit whenever it doesn't suit you misses the point entirely. Gene and Shannon are together, and probably will continue to be, but they didn't get up and promise each other in front of the world that they would be together.
To get married and decide that it just isn't for you anymore? That's a crock. I don't care if it's minutes (Britney and Jason) or months (Kenny and Renee), years or decades. If you make a promise, keep it. Is it really that hard?
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I don't think it is that hard. Jessica and Nick were married the very same day that Peter and I were. And three years in, we're still going strong.
I wonder if sharing their lives with all of America has affected their relationship. Most couples have maybe a couple sets of inlaws telling them how to live their lives...imagine having an entire country critique everything you do.
I wouldn't consider it a good excuse, but you've got to account for their unique situation...
Posted by rebecca on November 25, 2005 8:24 PM
Someone said, and I took it to heart, that love is not an emotion - it is an action. Just because you don't feel like you love someone, doesn't mean you can't do acts of love to that person. I think most people think love is an emotion and they think they fall out of love. In reality the initial "in love" feeling only last a couple of years. Then you get down to work and make it work.
Posted by Ted on November 26, 2005 8:13 AM
Ted makes a good point, love isn't simply an emotion, it's the conscious and sustained act of expressing that feeling towards another person, but while, i do agree that many a contemporary marriage is entered into with far too little care, i also feel strongly that there are times when the love really is gone. when you sincerely with all your heart try to relate to the person your with and they to you and there's still something deep missing, it's time to move on. my personal values are to pursue sincere committed relationships for the duration in which both people working to grow the love in their relationship find it fulfilling and to only promise to do just that and stay that long (hoping of course that it will be for life). i find this is the most respectful of the validity of each of our life experieces and unique identities or souls.
Posted by lindsay on May 5, 2006 11:46 PM
How closed minded and naive are you people? Do you honestly believe that people never change (maybe even sometimes for the worst)? Why Nick cheated on Jessica. How many times are you going to let that happen and go on "acting" you love and not feeling it?
Posted by Kyle on July 17, 2006 10:00 PM